There are certain things I trust. I trust the sun to rise in the morning. I trust the lady who does my dry cleaning to always wish me a “more-nice day”. I trust that Justin Beiber is past his 15 minutes. I also trust that the word “trust” is a loaded word.
Often, people think that the only way to lose or violate trust is to do something very clearly wrong or dishonest. It is actually much easier than that to destroy trust. Trust is quite simply, managing expectations in others, and then delivering on those expectations.
This is how it goes horribly wrong for politicians – large segments of the population demand that politicians lie to them during a campaign. Any political candidate that dare speak an uncomfortable truth, will be marginalized immediately. Then once elected, the disconnect between the expectations that have been set, and those that are delivered becomes patently obvious, and the public feels betrayed.
Just so you don’t end up being viewed like a politician, here are five ways to quickly destroy trust:
Say one thing and do another. Much like the politician above, this is the fastest way to ensure that no one will trust you.
Try to please all the people all the time. Life is a series of trade-offs – particularly for people in positions of leadership. As a leader, there should be some contingent of your followers that should be marginally pissed-off at all times – because it is impossible to keep everybody happy.
Pander to your audience. Targeting whomever you are communicating to is a good idea. However, if you find yourself targeting to such a degree that your message is fundamentally different amongst different stakeholders, you’re going to alienate someone (if not everyone).
Fail to tackle difficult issues. Every leader bears the burden of dealing with difficult issues. They will not magically disappear or solve themselves – in fact, an issue ignored is most often one that grows out of control.
Under-value giving credit, and over-value assigning blame. Leaders need to be humble – give away credit when things go well, and step up and accept more than your share of blame when things go poorly. You gain a whole bunch of trust by doing so.